Valentine’s Day. The pressure is on. It’s your big chance to knock the icicles from your charming personality, brush the snow off your wit, and capture the heart of that special someone.
Start with coffee—it’s low-commitment, ubiquitous and universally popular. Coffee keeps it casual and gives either one of you the option to bail out if the conversation is lagging, or move on to dinner if you want to know more.
It’s affordable. And provided you choose high-quality, 100% Arabica coffee, it tastes great. But there’s a much better reason, the one that really makes this a no-brainer: people like you better when they’re drinking coffee with you.
The Perfect Environment
You’re in good romantic company in a coffee shop, in fact, one out of three first dates occurs at a coffee shop. So pick a place that’s convenient, not too raucous or too dead, and choose a place that your date will love. Is she an indie coffee shop gal, rhapsodizing about shade-grown beans and poetry slams? Does she swear by a specific coffee shop?
Nobody likes pressure on a first date. The wine and dine approach may sound attractive in theory, but can wind up feeling obligatory. It isn’t very relaxing when two people are trying to figure out if they like each other. Coffee, by contrast, keeps it simple and relatively inexpensive. It also keeps the focus on you, rather than on some complicated dinner menu and table-side guacamole. You want your date to associate you (not her scallops) with the great time she’s having. Make the memory be about you and save the dinner for date number two, should she be so lucky.
Caffeine And Psychology: Your Allies in the Quest for Love
Caffeine, a stimulant, gets the heart pumping — just like love does. Not only will your date find you and your conversation more exciting, she might just find herself more persuaded by your charm than otherwise, simply because the caffeine in her drink is making her more attentive.
Moreover, a 2008 study funded by the National Institutes of Health found that holding a warm cup of coffee actually translated into warmer feelings for strangers—people found them more welcoming and trustworthy. When your date brings that cup to her lips, there’s an actual psychological process occurring that is entirely in your favor.
Can’t do that with a beer, now, can you?